I hope
@GWH stills answers you even though I'm jumping in. I'm enjoying his work.
2 Now Moses called all Israel and said to them: "You have seen all that the LORD did before your eyes in the land of Egypt, to Pharaoh and to all his servants and to all his land--3 "the great trials which your eyes have seen,
the signs, and those great wonders. (Deut. 29:2-3 NKJ)
God did perform miracles in the way God desired to perform miracles.
To some of us God is doing things a certain way to address man's will and to educate him to what God wills because at minimum God desires men to willfully love/obey Him. And we know from Scripture that some did that even though not to the perfect degree God desires as He revealed in His perfect Son.
But, since you see God as the primary cause of man's rebellion, why don't you just rest there and stop all the rhetoric? Your election + compatibilism concept is well understood by some of us.
What's interesting here to me is that I could join you in the primary cause analogy if it weren't for the way you see it.
Your primary cause ties to your focus on God's hatred for men and your erroneous view of election that ties to it. Your view is really very simplistic.
When some of us look at primary cause it would be that in giving men signs and wonders God graciously gave them things to accept or reject - He addressed beyond their senses into their will and their hearts - the same as He did in the Garden.
This is similar to how Paul dealt with his later understanding of Law in Rom7 - how Law was revealing a problem inside of himself that God through Law was revealing to men about themselves
The fact is that there is a tension created in Scriptures like these. God revealed Himself in grace > some rejected Him > God withholds some grace > God tells them to repent and keep covenant. God is addressing their will.
The only weak link here is men who choose to reject. Your answer is God chose them to reject. Mine is they chose to reject, and I see God doing many things through history to get men to look deeper into both Him and themselves.
Your simplicity looks right past such things.
The tension is revealed both in very simple context and additionally in wording I've attempted to highlight that actually causes some of us to look even deeper into the context and see a bit more than a simple contrast that the people see but don't see.