Recent content by will1983ik

I remember years ago asking the same question. I confess at the time, my thoughts were not pure and coming from selfish motives. The activity which is described as an abomination in Leviticus and unnatural in romans is clearly not ok even for consenting husband and wife. It could be argued...

i wanted to put this on my earlier post, as well as tidy up the grammar but it wont let me edit after 5 mins

I write as someone who struggled with same problem for over 20 years, but been free for the four years. It’s important to get the right advice as it will be the difference between success and failure. Often well meaning peopl, can give advice which doesn’t get to the heart of the problem...

Yes there is a mix of issues as @FollowingtheWay points out so needs a multi faceted approach. It is sinful and there may be a spiritual heart aspect to it, but also a psychological reason why the person is acting as they do. Does the 12 step program help? It did for me, where other things...

From what you describe it’s time to pull back and move on. The lack of her initiating contact coupled with short to the point responses are as sure a sign as any that they don’t view the relationship the same. it takes two to make a friendship and if you are the only one putting effort in...

I thought of the following advice I read once which might be of help. I applied it in my situation where I struggled with sexual sin, be it pornography or sex before marriage. I came to realise the problem was I was lonely and that me vulnerable to make bad choices. In many things people do...

It’s ok to feel these things, we are only human but try not to dwell on such thoughts. This life is not forever. There is much greater joy to be had in the next world. Draw strength from those around you until you are strong enough. I use Samaritans as an outlet if I am having particularly...

i can speak from personal experience of having been in bandage to pornography for 20 years and having been married twice. if a person is really addicted then no marriage won’t cure the problem because it’s deeper than just a desire for sex with one person. The addict will carry on being an...