There will never really be a dialogue, all we can do is point out all the holes in the schema by scripture and logic.
It is not possible to dialogue with what is essentially illogical, even of you pull scripture to make it sound Biblical
As
@cv5 has pointed out many times,
God doesn’t program people’s decisions like robots
He wants people to Love Him/Seek Him by their own decision – without making that decision for them.
He/God proposes marriage to her – and honors her decision – and does not make her decision for her.
He/God allows her to say no – and does not determine her choice.
What I see in this Reformed School is the case of the irresistible bull of Greek mythology.